| Keeping simple and to the point -
this is what some escorts had to say was their 'short
list' of basics to use on the job.
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Take your session know-how off the
clock as we bring together some escort's top tips for
work to good use in your freetime play!
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| COMMUNICATE |
@WORK: Strong communication makes your
sessions enjoyable. Learn your client's interests while
letting them know things that turn you on. Begin a session
asking what fantasies they have, what excites them. To
encourage them to open up, share something you are comfortable
sharing. And listen.
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@PLAY: If we can be upfront with client,
we can be upfront with the people we are dating or having
sex with for fun. Listen. Share what turns you on and
your concerns. Listen. Take time to learn about each other
and you might find each other coming back for more! Oh
yeah, and listen.
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| CARE
FOR MIND & BODY |
@WORK: Practice safer sex. Properly use
condoms. Too many drugs and late nights can wear down
your system, so plan ahead on taking breaks. Shower between
clients, and use that time to renew yourself. It never
hurts to have a snack handy to get ready for the next
session. Plan getaways for your mind to relax and unwind,
as well.
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@PLAY: Building the body beautiful helps
your sessions with clients, but building the body healthy
will keep you going for a long time. Learn to eat well
and find escapes that allow you good rest. Balance out
the party time with some quiet hours to relax and clear
your mind of work and personal issues. And a routine check-up
with a doctor you trust (or a free public health services
provided physician) will help make sure you continue being
the body breathing.
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| SET
CLEAR BOUNDARIES |
@WORK: Making a contract with yourself
will help define what you are willing and not willing
to do during a session. In the heat of the moment or under
pressure, it can be more difficult to stick to your own
guidelines, so take a few minutes before a session to
remember your own rules, communicate them to your client,
and allow yourself to relax.
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@PLAY: It's not work, of course, but
letting people know you what you will and won't do is
a big benefit when you are dating or being a total sexpig.
It can save some awkwardness in the heat of the moment
and keep you true to how you like to play.
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| KEEP
CONTROL |
@WORK: You are the guide - you can set
the course of the session. If the client looks stronger
than you, make sure they aren't in any positions that
could compromise your boundaries. For a first time client,
stay cautious and aware of their actions. Stay confident
and guide them through the session to stay safely in charge.
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@PLAY: Escaping the job sometimes means
getting all piggy with the nightlife (and the sex life),
but keeping your senses with a stranger/fuckbud/boyfriend
is no different than keeping your wits with a client.
Enforce your boundaries. You don't always have to guide
your personal life, but make sure that your limits are
being respected.
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| LEAVE
IF YOU MUST |
@WORK: If you feel threatened or even
a little uncertain about a client, it is best to walk
away. If you are engaged in a session and the client is
pushing your limits, try reaffirming them. But if they
don't listen, leave by any means necessary. You are not
required to complete a session, and while it sucks to
not get the cash, it's better to seek a safe space.
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@PLAY: Not an ideal outcome, but you
gotta remember that whether it is a fuckbud or a date,
you can leave if they are making you uncomfortable or
not respecting your boundaries. Abusive boyfriends are
never worth the price of losing your safety.
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