To Kiss or Not To Kiss

By Miguel Leonn, NYC

I often get asked this question: Do you kiss? Whether a client asks me this question or not, I must address it as I don’t kiss when working. Most all the time the reaction from the client involves a great deal of frustration. I never thought people would actually expect to kiss while interacting with an escort. I guess I was wrong on this. When being ask by potential clients as well as friends as to why I don’t kiss—after all being a Latin male and as passionate as I am—not kissing has to be seen as a big contradiction.

I had to make this choice right from the beginning when I started escorting. I knew that it may reduce the number of potential clients, but also represent a challenge for me. Throughout my life, kissing has been THE KEY in engaging sexually or romantically with me. I have always believed in the power of a kiss, and its importance in arousing me.

But the basic reason why I choose not to kiss clients is because in order to kiss one, I MUST feel a connection with the other guy or at least have the feeling that such connection could be establish at some point in the near future. The other aspect is that the key can work out in either a positive or negative way: it can be the beginning of a passionate encounter, or if the other person turns out to be a bad kisser, it would most likely turn me off completely. Since, I am not in this business to reject people, I wish to minimize those risky aspects.

These are, in a way, the practical reasons why not to kiss while working, but beyond this, there is a far more fundamental and important reason: my need to save something for me that I can give a special person (love interest/date/boyfriend, etc.). I want to be able to look at this person and say, "Hey my kisses are a part of me that is just for you. It is a part of my soul that I want to share with no one other than you.” It is a part of me that doesn’t have a price tag.

When I became an escort, I didn’t have a person who could explain to me the pros and the cons of the industry beyond the obvious. One of the things I realized was that many escorts, especially successful ones, sort of developed a “second personality” that they use when working. I’d venture to guess that the reason why one would take such a step is to be able to perform with clients and to engage in ways that they wouldn’t otherwise. It sounds perfectly logical. This way they can avoid emotional scars, or risking loosing themselves. Personally, I wish I could have done that, but it was not even a choice for me. I find myself being way too direct personality-wise, and the notion of being known with by a different name and/or to act differently than who I am is simply a no-go for me. I would rather bear the consequences for the choices I make and continue being myself. Nevertheless, I realized that I needed to find a way to keep few things protected from the burdens of the business and kissing was the most important of all. So this is how it became a policy.

In this line of work—being exposed in magazines, videos, media in general, and working as an escort—I can touched by any one who has the desire and the cash (LOL), thus I feel that it is important for me to keep a part of me that remains SEPARATE and in a way, protected. When I was asked to write this article, I wasn’t sure if I should disclose in such public way the reasons why I don’t kiss. But the more and more I thought about it, I realized it could be (as it turned out) a very liberating experience.

Born in Venezuela of a French father, Miguel is a graduate in human resources management, NYC-based, and a citizen of the world! For more information go to www.miguelleonn.com