HOOK: E-zine By, For, and About Men in the Sex Industry

More important than creating a scene for the satisfaction of your client is the art of seduction, for without this crucial element, you create nothing.

True seduction is an art form for you to understand what your clients wants and to act upon these desires in such a way that it no longer seems like you are going through the motions just to get him off, but work him as if he is the only person you have ever done this for—pleasing him and reaping your monetary rewards.

To seduce is to persuade, to tempt by offering something, to lead toward something attractive. With this meaning in mind, the sky’s the limit. Its important to understand the absolute necessity to read your client, talk to him, get a feel for who he is and what he wants, then take that information and run with it. This is where motion is replaced with art. You can accomplish this in several ways. Always look your client in the eye and guide him with your eyes into the potential situation. Hand in hand with that is touch. The touch can be gentle, rough or any combination thereof, depending upon what you feel he is looking for from the encounter, the evening, the entire night, the entire weekend or however long it is to last.

I would actually dare to go farther and say that touch is more important than any of the other senses. Think about this for a moment. The grasp of a firm hand, the gentle touch in the right place, the urging of where you guide his hand or he yours, the simplicity of an erotic massage to get things moving if the client is a bit apprehensive. In addition, touch is not restricted to the hands. The feel of hot breath near someone’s ear, neck, genitals, or where ever else the mood takes you; the sensuality of a hot, wet tongue on various parts of the body, or the urging of an erect penis all contribute to the sensuality and eroticism of touch.

The next important sense—which goes hand in hand with the other two—is speech. It has been said many times that the one major difference between humans and animals is the ability of verbal communication, or language. We often forget how very imperative language is in our industry. It is the backbone of getting off, for we always act or react to what we hear. We are affected by what others say, how they say it, and when they say it. If you want to be successful in this industry, you better learn how to speak to your client and when to say what to him. Does he like tough talk, butch acting, gentle, romantic, childlike, dominant or submissive? You need to size up your client and the situation at hand after talking with him and negotiating price, time, length of stay and any other concerns you may have. As the old adage goes, timing is everything. Pick up on the cues your client is sending out, giving you or indicating what he is looking for. Really listen to what he is saying, inferring or implying to you. If he is a new client, go through an interviewing process. You cannot seduce a man you know nothing about, unless of course, all he is interested in getting off; in which case, get him off, get paid and get out.

In my own experiences and travels, I preferred the return client. I felt safer being with someone I already knew. Since I had a sense of who he was, what he wanted, how he wanted it, and when he wanted it, seducing him was a piece of cake. On the other hand, I enjoyed the thrill of meeting a new client: a new body to explore, a new penis to play with, and another financial resource. We all look for different things in different people and there’s no one correct way of seducing your client. What I can and will say—and by the way I think this is universal—as much as men are visual creatures, they all like being seduced to one degree or another, and as a sexworker, your position and knowledge to do so will take you a long way.

Jim Demitrios was in the sex industry in NYC back in the early to mid 70's. "I was a street hustler in Greenwich Village and my corner of choice was West 10th Street and Washington. At the time I began I was 17 years old and continued on to put myself through college until I hit 20 or so, when I met a leatherman who became my SIR/Daddy for the next 10 years. By that point, I had saved enough money to enter and pay for graduate school and get a professional degree in psychology."